Earlier this year, I joined a local, Facebook group for moms that I thought would be a great way for me to connect with other moms in my area. It did not take long before I noticed the clash of parenting methods. Now, I will admit that I would comment with my “advice” every now and then, but I never wanted to sound like I had all of the answers, because I knew that I didn’t. Because we all parented our children differently, everyone had their own opinions on how to “perfectly” raise a child. It was so discouraging that I eventually had to remove myself from the group.
When I first heard of the Hoodwinked book, I knew that it was a book that I needed to read. It is has been hard for me to connect with other moms in real life. It’s easy for me to connect online because I can find a group of moms that agree with my style of parenting and I don’t end up feeling discouraged by the lack of passion for biblical parenting. We are surrounded with other moms that do things differently than we do and learning to support each other is so essential as Christian mothers.
Hoodwinked is written by Ruth Schwenk from http://www.thebettermom.com/ and Karen Ehman from http://www.karenehman.com/ and it is about ten myths that we moms believe and why we all need to knock it off.
The myths that I mostly struggle with are:
-The Way I Mother Is The Right (and Only) Way:
I’m a mom that is passionate about cloth diapers, natural birth, extended breastfeeding, etc but this chapter reminded me that that isn’t the only, right way to be a mom. Those things are important to me, but what’s most important is pointing my children to Jesus and training them up to serve Him.
“Remembering to speak truthfully with grace can help us to temper our tone and package our words in a way that will get across our philosophy without crushing the other person’s feelings or making them feel inferior for making a different choice.” Page 48 of Hoodwinked
-I am “Just” a Mom:
For years, I have labeled myself as Mama. I have thought that my kids should be my whole life and should always come first. Just recently, I have felt so convicted about this thought and I have realized that my children should not be my world, Jesus should and they belong to Him.
“The desire to seen in a particular way is a reflection of our need to find worth or identity. As moms, this has to start with who we are in Christ. Motherhood is a part, but it is not the whole.” Page 59 of Hoodwinked
-I Have to Do It All Right, or My Child Will Turn Out Wrong:
If you know me, then you know that my husband and I take our parenting role very seriously. We believe that our children should be disciplined and corrected when they do something wrong. It’s so easy to focus on teaching our kids the rules that we forget to reach their heart. Our children will never be perfect and they will sin just like we do as adults, but it’s our responsibility to point them in the right direction.
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galations 6:9
As a young mom to three kids, ages three and under, this book was such a blessing to me because being a mom is hard and this book reinforces the fact that no one is perfect. We all need to remember that as Christian moms, our identity is in Christ and we should strive to glorify Him in our parenting.
I love how this book busts one myth at a time with biblical and scripture references that offer hope to desperate mamas. I challenge you to join me in becoming no longer hoodwinked.
Buy your Hoodwinked book here: Hoodwinked: Ten Myths Moms Believe and Why We All Need To Knock It Off
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