Did you know that women who fear childbirth tend to labor longer? Of course, this is something we all want to avoid because of the pain and discomfort that comes with having a baby. A longer labor also raises the chances for interventions or a cesarean delivery.
After experiencing two drug-free births, I’ll be honest and say it’s easy to be afraid, especially when you know what to expect. Going through the intensive work of labor and then pushing the baby out isn’t exactly an enjoyable experience. Rewarding? Yes. Fun? No way! As I get closer to my due date, the anxiety and fear creep in.
I’m afraid of something going wrong.
I’m afraid of things not going as planned.
I’m afraid of not making it to the hospital in time.
I’m afraid to be away from my other children.
While I have all of these fears, I’ve learned that I must change my focus from fear to faith.
I have faith that God’s plan trumps my plan.
I have faith that God created my body to know what to do.
I have faith that God will provide a family member or caretaker for my children when I need to go to the hospital.
When I submit to Christ’s plan for the birth of my child and ultimately His plan for my life, I find peace. Which is something we all long whether we are in labor or not. When we go through trials we must always remember that God is with us. He sees us and He has a purpose for our pain.
So when the job gets tough and I feel like I can’t go on any longer, I will remember to pray.
I will pray for strength and endurance to get through each contraction. Along with the sweet baby that is about to make his appearance into this world.
I hope to be aware that my husband has to see me suffer and that God would also give him strength. And I’m sure that my mind will wander about how my other little ones will adjust to someone else needing mommy’s attention.
As I’m climbing that mountain of childbirth, my desire is to not focus so much on the pain but the fact that I have faith and endurance to get to the top. I have a Savior that I can rely on to get me through another birth.
Here are a few ways that I plan to stay focused on Christ during my (hopefully) third drug-free birth:
I’ve never used music as a distraction before and it’s something that I really want to try this time.
The drummer girl in me believes I can try to focus on the beat and intensity of the songs to take my mind somewhere else.
Here is a printable list of a few songs that will be on my playlist:
(click the picture to download)
A motivating board with birth affirmations, bible verses, pictures of your family, etc.
You can use a cork board like I did or a foam/poster board. Get creative and feel it full of truth that will encourage you throughout labor.
Download my free printable with some of my favorite motivating quotes and verses:
I will also be using essential oils again.
I plan on using clary sage, ylang ylang, lavender and deep blue.
Clary sage: Helps encourage labor and strengthens contractions
Ylang Ylang: Helps calm and reduce stress
Deep Blue: For back labor and after birth cramps (I use this one very sparingly because it has peppermint oil in it and some say that can mess with your milk supply)
I want to keep the oils simple and down to a minimum. If you have a doula then it will be easier to use more oils because she can keep up with where they are and how they are to be used.
I hope this helps and encourages you if you are expecting! Comment below if you are and how far along you are. Also, let me know if you have any other suggestions when it comes to staying focused during labor.