Since my oldest daughters are four and five (14 1/2 months apart) they both have a lot to say and a strong opinion on just about everything. I constantly find myself telling my talkative girls to wait their turn and be patient. They will get their turn to speak. They will get their turn with the pink cup, or a chance to help me in the kitchen, just be patient.
Sometimes I get so frustrated demanding them to be patient that I lose my patience. So how can we create and demonstrate more peace in our homes?
Acknowledge that God is working in us
These quarrels between my children remind me that God is trying to teach me something.
When we face the challenges knowing that their is something to be learned, we can train our minds to hear God’s voice in the midst of the chaos.
We must remember that God is asking the same from us as we ask from our children. He wants us to be patient with the work He is doing in us. Hopefully you want to be a wise, godly example to your children. But it’s not going to just happen suddenly one day.
To pursue this peace and wisdom, we must seek Christ daily and acknowledge that sometimes we will mess up. That’s when we ask for forgiveness. From Christ and our family.
The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance. -2 Peter 3:9
I’ve heard many people say that they just are not a patient person. But the truth is none of us are. What person isn’t bothered by an extremely slow driver? Or waiting to be seen in the emergency room for 8+ hours (true story…)?
We all struggle with the sin of wanting things our way, right away. When my girls are arguing I want them to get along all day everyday but obviously that isn’t going to happen.
What I’ve learned is that when I acknowledge that God is working in me, I strive to do better. When I mess up and lose my temper, I repent and pray to do better next time.
Patient Mama = A More Peaceful Home
As moms, we have a deep desire for peace in our homes and we long for the chance to drink our coffee without playing 20 questions. We are desperate for a nice, warm bath after a hard day. We also desire for our kids to be best friends and learn to work out disagreements on their own.
But our children are still growing and learning how life works. If we want to teach our children how to demonstrate patience, we must be an example to them. How we treat our husband, church members, or the cashier at the local burger joint can really impact our children.
The first step to creating a peaceful home start with us, the moms. We must examine our attitudes and our hearts daily. We must ask ourselves constantly, am I honoring God in my home?
When we set out to honor God, we will be more patient, more peaceful and more joyful in our homes. I encourage you to try a little harder. Find creative ways to see what you could change to avoid losing your temper. Try keeping a journal of your “angry moments” and write out what made you lose it. Then look back over it at the end of the day and commit to try better the next day.
What makes you impatient and how are you working to improve in this area?