I know it’s June but….Christmas is my most favorite time of the year. I look forward to the smells, the tastes, the sounds, and the atmosphere. One of my favorite things about Christmas is when the sun goes down and the tree lights are glowing in our dim lit living room. Each ornament and it’s memories are on spotlight for us to stare and reflect on.
As I think about what it means to parent with kindness and goodness, I can’t help but think about Christmas lights. I want to bring warmth and comfort to my family like this magical holiday.
The Life-giving Home
If you haven’t read Sally Clarkson’s The Life-giving Home, then I encourage you to buy it immediately. Sally shares all about her family traditions for each month of the year and creating a home that points our children to Christ. She offers all kind of ideas, from simple gatherings like afternoon tea to hosting a harvest festival.
You may be thinking, “I don’t have time for that” or “I can barely keep the kids fed and bathed”. As a mother of four little ones, I understand and I’ve felt that way too. But here’s what we must make time for, shining God’s light in our family.
We can always find ways to practice kindness to our children and husband. The simple little things we must do everyday can impact the way our children feel at home. I want them to see a mom that includes them in the kitchen because I care more about them than perfection. When we set our mind on being intentional within our homes, beautiful things can flourish.
While it’s great to look up to wise women like Sally Clarkson, our true example should come from Christ.
Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. -Matthew 5:15-16
Sometimes it can be difficult to be the light in our homes. We are easily aggravated with each other and it causes us to sin instead of shining like God intends for us to. But today I encourage you to show kindness to your family and be an example of God’s grace.
Doing good even when you don’t feel like it
Christianity is not a faith based on good works, but often times doing good things is part of honoring God. We don’t deserve God’s grace or love because we are sinful. But when we have the Holy Spirit in us, we want to do good. We know it’s wrong to yell at our children, or be rude to the waitress that keeps making mistakes.
As parents, so often we are caught up in doing all the Pinterest crafts and activities that we forget the simple goodness that comes from everyday living. Our children don’t need elaborate activities, they need a mother that is willing to serve even when she is exhausted. They need a mom that finds delight in caring for them.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. -Ephesians 4:9
Being a godly woman and mother means we should always look for ways to serve and build others up. We should strive to point out the good in our husband, even when he doesn’t do things like we would have. Or find ways to lift up our children when they are learning a new skill.
We can easily find ways to encourage those within our home if we are wise enough to stop and think about our actions and whether they reflect the goodness of God.
It’s what’s in our hearts that matter
We can do good within our homes but it really comes down to our motives. Our God-seeking hearts should motivate us more than a pretty Instagram picture. We should long for sweet memories with our families because this is when the training happens. This can be one of the best ways for your children learn about the Christian faith. The undeserving forgiveness and unlimited goodness that is happening under your roof.
I encourage you to spread kindness and goodness throughout your home each day!