Christmas is a time to spread cheer and kindness to those around us. It seems like many of us commit to being generous to others during the Holiday season. We commit to share random acts of kindness where we leave gifts or encouraging words to whomever finds them. We go through the drive thru for our delicious Holiday drinks and decide to pay for the stranger’s order behind us without expecting anything in return.
We go out of our way to be kind to the people that we don’t know. We don’t know their bad habits or struggles. They don’t bother us when we are busy or interrupt us while we are on the phone.
It’s easy to love someone when you are never face to face with their own sinfulness.
Now, of course one of our duties as Christians is to share God’s love to strangers. But sometimes we forget about spreading joy to the people He has put in our everyday lives. Our families and co-workers, the people that get on our nerves sometimes. The people that say hurtful words in the heat of the moment.
This year I’ve felt the need to focus more on the atmosphere in our home rather than outside the home. I know that I must focus on nurturing these relationships within our family in order to fulfill God’s plan for us outside of the home. My hope is that my children would learn to love those that are not always easy to love. That this will prepare them to share God’s love with everyone around them.
I’ve been challenged to examine what my children are struggling with when it comes to being kind. To be honest, most of the time they don’t have a hard time sharing a book at the library with the little girl they just met. They enjoy bringing homemade treats to a neighbor. It’s fun for them to show this kind of love.
What they do struggle with is showing kindness to each other. This is where I feel like my focus needs to be this Christmas. Our oldest two are only 14 months apart, so naturally the enjoy playing together. But if you have small children then you know that when two children play together it’s not always sunshine and rainbows. Sometimes it’s hair-pulling, hitting, biting, and tackling.
Have you heard the phrase,“All mom wants for Christmas is a silent night.”?
We can all relate to this, especially if you have more than one child.
Like all of us, my children are sinful, selfish people. When they misbehave and cause problems between each other it tends to frustrate me. When I’m frustrated and losing it, it seems like everyone else is too. The peaceful home I desire seems to be nonexistent. Just a dream.
Even as a mother and wife it’s challenging to show kindness to my family at times.
When things seem like they are falling apart I begin to ask myself, “what can I do to make them get along?” or “why isn’t what I’m doing working?”. The truth is their is no magic secret that can make our children into little sinless humans. But we must be willing to correct them time and time again. We must remind them to love and forgive each other like Christ has forgiven us. This is the kindness I want my children to have.
The kind of love for each other that is genuine and not just a seasonal tradition. A lifetime journey to be thoughtful, forgiving, and grateful for one another.
So this year, we are using our kindness elves to deliver a special task for the kids to do together each day that will encourage them to be nice to each other. I’ve tried not to over complicate things since I do have a small infant that still needs me A LOT throughout the day.
I encourage you to join along in this simple activity to spread kindness in your homes this year. Commit to making this holiday season a peaceful one.
Click on the images below to download and print the kindness cards.
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