As parents, loving our children comes easy. From the day they are born we are overwhelmed with the feeling of gratitude and compassion for our sweet little ones. So, why would I write a blog post on parenting with love? Isn’t it kind of obvious that we love our children?
Here’s the thing, I think that yes, it’s natural for us to automatically love our children even when they test this love everyday. But how can we grow in showing our children love? How can we take it a step further when it comes to reaching their hearts?
I want us to really dig deep on what it means to parent with love. Not by giving our children gifts, or setting them up for a “successful” education experience, but by pointing them to God’s love for us.
Showing love with our actions.
I don’t know about you but sometimes I struggle with showing love to my kids. I use my speech to remind them of how special they are consistently, but it takes more effort for me to really communicate my love in a way that they understand.
One way I believe that we can show love to our children is by spending time with them doing what they enjoy. When we make an effort to really connect with them, it opens the doors for more deep conversations and memories.
Just for fun I’ll share with you some fun activities my kids and I enjoy doing together. Maybe this will give you some ideas or encourage you to think about what your kids would love to do with you.
For my oldest(5), it’s creating a picture or doing an art project together.
My second daughter(4) loves to put on shows and dance.
My little guy(2) enjoys reading and puzzles.
The baby(7 months) loves to nurse (duh!) and play peek-a-boo.
I encourage you to stop and think about each individual child. Write down something that your child really enjoys and make it a goal to do it with them as often as possible. Use these playful moments to talk with them about how much God loves us, and how He showed this to us by dying on the cross for our sins.
“This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters. If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person? Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” 1 John 3:16-18
Showing our children’s God’s love through our love.
Motherhood is a mission opportunity for us to minister to our children in a special way. In the season that I’m currently in, my children are really young. I spend most of my days helping my oldest two girls work through the drama (#girlmom) all while teaching my two-year-old that hitting his sister in the head with a truck in unacceptable. Oh and don’t forget bouncing, nursing, and rocking the baby.
Motherhood is hard, it’s messy and scary, but every day God reminds me of how blessed I am to be a mother. It’s a job that never stops giving, but this evident sacrifice continues to point me back to Christ’s sacrifice for me. We must acknowledge His love and His offering if we really want to love our children well.
When it comes to parenting, our daily goal should be to show our children the love they deserve. While we will never love them like Christ, it’s our duty to try a little harder each day.
“And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity” Colossians 3:14
Seek peace and unity in your homes by choosing to love.
What do your kids love to do with you?